Calm Holiday Tip #5

Today’s Tip: Apply empowered thinking and THEN review your problem 

What’s the most stressful thing in your life today, at this moment? It can be big or small. Jot it down and read on.  

For example: 

  “My husband is making me furious, he isn’t taking initiative to help with anything.”

   “I don’t want to go visit my family but I’ll feel guilty if I don’t.”

   “My kids expect too much and I feel like a bad mom if I don’t get them everything.”

 Now, let’s take a look at the empowered thinking principles, and then we’ll revisit the problem. Get ready for some tough love

 Empowered Thinking Rules: 

1️⃣ No one can make me feel anything, my own thoughts always create my feelings. 

 2️⃣ Other people’s thoughts, feelings and actions are always out of my control. 

 3️⃣ I am responsible for all of my actions.

 After reading through those, let’s look back at our problem list and see how we could describe them differently. When you use the Empowered Thinking lens to describe a problem, you can also solve the problem because you take ownership of everything that belongs to you. 

 “My husband is making me furious, he isn’t taking initiative to help with anything” 

 Your thoughts about your husband's behavior are making you furious. You are responsible for your actions. You have the option to not do anything, do everything, send him a list asking him to do something. You own that choice and the actions you take after. 

 “I don’t want to visit my family but they’ll make me feel guilty if I don’t.”

No one else can make you feel guilty. Your own thoughts can. You are responsible for your actions. You can go, or you can stay, but own that you have a choice and you get to decide. 

 “My kids expect too much and make me feel like a bad mom if I don’t get them everything on their list.”

 Only you can make yourself feel like a bad mom. Take ownership of your options. You can either get everything, or not get everything, but own that you have a choice and that you can make a decision. 

1. What is your most stressful item today? 

2. How will you approach it using empowered thinking? What options do you have? 

 When you reply, I’ll enter you into this week’s drawing, which is for a cute coffee mug and a $50 Starbucks card. That should get you through the holidays! 

P.S. If you're feeling overwhelmed, why wait until January to start working on it? Set up a free discovery call with me to learn about my 1 on 1 coaching and see if it's a fit for you.