Stuck + Overwhelming Guilt
My client Cori is a successful career woman with a full and exciting social life. Until COVID, that is. Cori came to me because she felt “stuck”. Stuck in a job she hated, stuck at home because of COVID, and stuck with a house she’d been trying to sell for years.
With Cori's permission, I'm sharing her journey from stuck to FREEDOM.
Part 1: Pause & Understand the Problem
Our first step was to understand exactly what felt "off" in Cori’s life.
She hated her job. She didn’t enjoy the culture of the company, and she never received any recognition for her contributions. She had been working hard to find a new job, with no avail.
For health reasons, Cori decided to quarantine, which made her feel alone.
Another thing that plagued Cori was guilt. She felt guilty all the time. If she didn’t join a zoom happy hour after work because she was tired, she felt guilty. If she had to follow up with someone at work who missed a deadline, she felt guilty for being “mean”. She felt guilty about a job offer she declined, even though it wasn’t a good fit for her.
Part 2: Change thoughts & take action
First, I taught Cori to notice her own thoughts and the impact of those thoughts.
Cori’s thoughts were creating feelings like guilt, loneliness, and frustration.
Learning to let go of unhelpful thoughts is a skill that anyone can learn. It just takes practice, and Cori practiced diligently until she nailed it (#overachiever). Her new thoughts created feelings like joy (even about work!), peace, and satisfaction.
By the middle of our coaching, Cori was regularly thinking new thoughts such as:
I don’t need compliments, validation comes from within.
The more I let go, the better it turns out.
My needs matter.
I take no shit.
As you might guess, her life started to turn around.
Part 3: The Results
The biggest shift is that Cori has truly connected to herself. She said “I realized I was not a whole person and you taught me to connect all the parts of me. Now my thoughts, my body and my mind are all connected.”
She also created some pretty amazing results in her life, including:
Landing a new job with a significant raise.
Moving to a new neighborhood where she could get out more.
Selling her second home that had been on the market 4 times with 6 failed contracts previously.
Becoming even closer with her inner circle of friends, while also letting go of relationships that didn’t serve her.
Making her body and her health an important priority in her life
Getting recruited for another even BETTER job with a pending offer.
With that powerful new outlook on life, Cori dropped all of the guilt she used to feel, and told me “My needs matter. I choose myself.”
Are you ready to show up in your own life? Is 2021 the year where you’ll learn to stop trying to please everyone? Don’t spend another minute feeling stuck or guilty. Let’s work together and create a life where you choose yourself and get amazing results like Cori. Set up a free hour with me to see if my coaching is a good fit for you.
